Why spanking shouldn’t be used for discipline

There are many forms of discipline that parents and caregivers can use in order to teach children right from wrong. Certain techniques can have excellent results, and some can do more harm than good, an example of this is spanking. Spanking is the least desirable form of discipline, as it only promotes negative effects.

Here is a look at why spanking does more harm than good:

Ineffective discipline

Spanking is often seen as an easy approach to disciplining a child, as it is done in an instant. However, it has the least impact, and it sends a negative message. Spanking a child lets them know at that instant that they have acted or behaved in a way that is not acceptable, however, they may not understand from this, as they have to guess what they have done wrong. A child cannot effectively learn from being spanked. It accomplishes an immediate reaction, that is soon forgotten, and often the reason for the child is unknown.

Negative feelings

After a child has been spanked it leaves a bitter feeling of resentment, and it leaves both parties feeling negative and hostile towards one another. It breaks the bond and trust in a relationship with the child. It is damaging to the child’s emotional well-being, as well as leaving the child feeling negative and unhappy. In the long term, continued spanking can accentuate bad childhood memories. It may also lower self-esteem and have an impact on confidence in later life.

Spanking teaches unwanted behavior

If a child is routinely spanked for bad behavior, then he or she will learn that it is okay to lash out in an aggressive way to others when they feel angered or irritated. This is not the kind of way in which we expect children to conduct themselves, and it is not condoned behavior. However, if a child is spanked they know no different. Spanking teaches a child that this is an acceptable way to treat others, and the child may learn to become more aggressive with others.

Why spanking is ineffective

Young children are still learning about the world around them, and in that, they are learning about their boundaries as they explore their surroundings. Children from a young age are not aware of what is right from wrong, and it can take a little while for them to learn what is good and bad, and what behavior is acceptable. Spanking doesn’t allow a child to learn, as they are not given the opportunity to understand what they have done wrong.

Spanking really does no good for all concerned, as it leaves a bitter feeling for both, and the long term effects are detrimental to a child’s social and emotional well-being. Spanking a child should be avoided, as there are many forms of discipline which have positive results.