What should your Grandchildren know about you

Your grandchildren potentially already know that you love them; they might even know that you are prone to spoiling them with gifts and treats. Your grandchildren know that when mom and dad are unavailable they can turn to you for their needs and wants.

Your grandchildren probably already know that you bake the best cookies, tell the best stories, have more patience than their parents and are tolerant to a fault. What else do your grandchildren need to know?

Your grandchildren need to know everything about you that you choose to share with them, and even some of the things you’d probably rather not disclose. You are your grandchildren’s extended roots. The more they know about you, the more they know about themselves.

Your grandchildren should know:

* Personal history

Grandchildren need to know the facts of life about their grandparents. This includes their grandmother’s maiden name, the places you both grew up, your level of education, what you did for a living; any significant achievements you may have accomplished and special talents you might possess.

If a child is musically inclined and his grandmother was an accomplished pianist, that is good information to know. If a child is the only redhead in the family and his great-grandfather, your own father, was also a redhead, that is good to know.  Children who can relate their unique physical features and extraordinary talents to someone in their past family history might potentially develop a greater sense of belonging and self-acceptance.

The details of their grandparents personal history, regardless of how seemingly insignificant to you, add up to providing your grandchild with a greater sense of self-identity. It is not enough to merely say to a grandchild, “You come from good stock.” Let them know what that “stock” consists of and how it might relate to them.

* Medical history

Grandchildren need to know some of the medical background in their family. If there is a hereditary medical condition, or if a grandparent has a history of heart disease, diabetes or any other medical issue that might one day need to be discussed with their own doctor.

If a grandparent is minus a limb as a result of serving in a war to defend his country’s freedoms, that is valuable information for a grandchild to know. History takes on a whole new meaning when the child can connect it to relevance in his own life.

* The good old days

Grandparents who share stories of what it was like when they were young often instill a sense of awareness and appreciation in their grandchildren for the modern day amenities previously taken for granted.

This does not mean that the grandparents must relate all the facts of their life in boring detail by preaching to their grandchildren . Grandparents can weave their stories into daily life in an entertaining way, that might potentially leave the grandchildren begging for more.

While walking to the park a grandparent might point out an interesting-looking car that drives by and relate the story of his own first vehicle. A grandmother might teach a grandchild to knit or crochet and relate who taught her that skill and the surrounding details.

Grandparents can sit with their grandchildren and go through old photo albums, pointing out distant relatives and relaying interesting stories about them.

Holidays are a perfect opportunity to incorporate cultural customs and traditions into a grandchild’s life. Giving grandchildren detail of their ethnic background instills family pride and positive self pride into the grandchild’s psyche.

Grandchildren develop increased feelings of self-worth when they know the enriching details of their roots and family background.

Ensure your family values, history and traditions do not fade away in time, but live on in the hearts and minds of future generations by telling your grandchildren what they should know about you. Hopefully they will pass the information you impart on to their grandchildren creating an ongoing legacy of a strong, loving family bond.