Tips for Reducing the Effect of Peer Pressure on Children

Peer groups are desired by all, especially children. When in a peer group, children learn more and, although this can be seen as a negative thing, it is an integral part of your child’s up bringing. It makes sure that she becomes a social creature who knows what is expected of her in any social experience, without needing written instructions. Therefore, peer pressure will make your child a person of their times and not one of yours and will help them makes sense of the world that they will live in, not your world.

In order to reduce the effects of peer pressure on your children, give them the strongest self esteem you can and this will provide them with the wherewithal to challenge negative input from their peers.

They will need to know that they are loved, no matter what. They will need to know that even the odd incident of smoking, drinking or drug taking can be forgiven but only if they tell you and agree to talk it through with you or an expert. They will need to know that you will love them, no matter what.

If they do do something that you do not approve of and they have the wherewithal to cope by using the skills you have given them, then they can tell you what they have done knowing that you will talk to them as adults. They will have the confidence to know that you will discuss what they did and why they did it. They will have learned that whatever they did was not as bad as they thought it was. If you discuss it with them, you can suggest ways they could change what they did and how they could convince their peer group it was wrong. You could also discuss how bad it could have got and the position they might be in then.

By discussing deeds and consequences with your children you give them the opportunity to explore the world with confidence and the knowledge that they will always have your support.

And finally the best way to increase your child’s self esteem is to trust them implicitly and unconditionally.