The Word no is a Preventative Measure to help your Teen get through their Teen Years

The teen years are filled with angst,disagreements and often a volatile relationship between most parents and their teens. This is a time for setting boundaries and occasionally limiting your teens comings and goings and saying, “no,” to some of your teens outlandish request to stay out much later than their curfew time on a school night or purchasing a hot new car, with their parents life savings for their teens college education. Some teens have even taken it so far as to ask for emancipation from their parents. It’s time for parents to set realistic boundaries, set their foot down and calmly say, “no” to their teens request. 

The problem is most teens believe that they know what is best for their future. Teens are unaware that wisdom and experience come with age and most parents only have their best interest at heart. The word no seems like a punishment to most teens.

There will come a time when a parent will have to say no to their teen. Alas, there isn’t any easy way to get around this quagmire of saying no to your teen. However, the no should be cut and dry and with very little explanation. The more explanation that is given to your teen only creates an atmosphere for arguments, rebellion and the common question most teens ask and that would be, “why?” The no should be simply stated without any anger or hostility towards your teen. The word, “no” is not always a punishment. For most parents the word, “no” is a preventative measure. If a parent says yes to extending a teens curfew, then, more than likely, the teen will take advantage of the situation and whine and complain the next time he or she wants to get the answer they want. 

So stick to your guns parents and never go back on your word. If you say, “no” today, then, the answer should still be the same tomorrow. Let’s face the cold hard facts that teens don’t reach maturity and have clear thinking, sound minds over night. 

A teen will try to wear down a parents resolve by throwing a fit or sulking for days on end. Try to ignore their erratic mood swings because it’s par for the course of a teen. Rebellion, might be the next phase that most teens will employ to get their parents to give in and  give them the answer that they want to hear. Choose your battles parents and decide from the very beginning the outcome that you want to take place. For instance, you don’t want your teen driving their friends in your car. The answer should always be a resounding, “no!”