The Debate between Moms Working outside the Home vs Staying at Home

The UK Labour Government has long promoted the policy of mothers returning to work after having children rather than staying at home to help raise them. And although this idea now seems to be backfiring there appears to be little chance of a back-peddle, despite the rumblings of another outcry at recent announcements of the reforming the disability payments.

The issue is double-edged: getting mothers back to work will help give them more responsibility, let them earn money (and potentially more money than being on benefits provides) and also reduce the burden of benefit payments. However, by encouraging mothers to go back to work rather than stay at home and look after their children is nothing more than encouraging the breakdown of family life in the majority of cases.

I don’t have a problem with mothers who choose to go back to work because they are the primary or sole breadwinner or they can fit it in around their work patterns. In facts it’s an admirable move for those who put their children first.

But I find it difficult to believe that children would benefit more from the primary carer(s) being at work than they would with one at home instead. As Conservative Party Leader, David Cameron, recently said, it is important to have the input of two parents to avoid what he called the anarchy of teenage yobs in the UK. This stemmed, he believed, from children growing up with only parent and resulted in what is probably a one-sided view of life which doesn’t help a balanced relationship with both sexes.

From some mothers I know who have chosen to return to work after having children, it isn’t because they can’t afford to live on one salary coming into the family but rather because of not wanting a child to lower their living standards.

They could choose to trade in the 4×4 for a more economical car or cut out the extra foreign holiday a year, but they decide to keep those things and go back to work, farming their child out to a childminder and maintain the previous level of luxuries.

There are always some people who try to play the benefits system but if mothers, or even fathers, wanted to return to work, I feel that most of them would. Few would opt to live in poverty with a child when there is a chance to earn money and give their family a better standard of life.

Instead, too many are driven by greed rather than need which means that family life suffers. And the government supports this dim-minded view by encouraging both parents, or the sole parent, to return to work which ultimately means spending less quality time with each other and so create the situation David Cameron has already spoken out against.