Teen Issues

Vivez la revolution! Pour la liberte! No, the revolution hasn’t returned with her bloody embrace, but rather the call for freedom within the teenage realm of existence has come knocking upon our ears. It’s true that many teens suffer from the perpetual desire for freedom, and much like the French, they ether don’t know what to do to get it, or what to do when they get it. Teenagers just want to be treated as equals, who get a bit of extra leeway, because they feel like they’re almost grown up, and they deserve it. Well, the easiest ways to earn your parents trust as a teen are: A. Don’t break rules they’ve established; B, show initiative; and C, place yourself in a trustworthy position.

So my room’s a little messy, and I was late coming home a few times, what’s the big deal? Everything. The first, and sometimes the hardest part, of gaining your parents’ trust is to simply listen to what they want you to do. If you don’t follow their rules, they see it as disrespectful, and a challenge to their control of the house. Sure their rules may sound overboard, and they might be in some cases, but by obeying them all, as best as you can, you show that you have the capacity to do what’s needed. If parents can tell that you’ll do what they ask, when they ask, their respect for you increases exponentially. Not only will they trust that you can and will do what they ask, but they also begin to give you more freedoms, because you handle the freedom you already have responsibly.

The second step is show initiative. What this means is: don’t wait for them to hit you in the face with a towel and say, clean the kitchen. If something needs to be done, and you notice it, go do it. Parents are highly susceptible to this, and when they see that you’ve cleaned something they usually don’t ask you to clean just because, they appreciate it. This also extends into planning for something. If you take the initiative and get all the times, places, people, and money straight, and can tell them as soon as they ask, they’re more willing to let you go, even if it is slightly more last minute, or farther away. Taking initiative while helping around the house and planning is key to gaining more freedom from the parentals.

The last step, and the most tricky at times, is put yourself in a trustworthy position. Parents aren’t going to let you do more of the things you want to do if you stay out all Friday, and come home Saturday looking like you just died. If you give your parents a reason to trust you, and believe what you say, then they’re much more likely to give you more freedom. Sometimes this means sacrificing some of the less “savory” gatherings you may want to attend. In general, telling the truth immediately, and avoiding potentially bad situations are some of the best ways to gain your parents trust.

Gaining more freedom from parents is like building a house; you have to have a strong base, or reason, to build on. Without it, nothing will ever work. By doing these three things you can make a strong base, and give your parents a good reason to give you more freedom. Of course there are other ways to get more freedom, look at the French Revolution, but if you don’t want bloody heads rolling around, this is by far the best way to gain freedom.