Some Girls are Harder to Raise than Boys

To understand why some girls are harder to raise than boys it is necessary to first look at the roles they play within the family. This was easier in years past when families were larger.

Girls tend to be more verbal than boys and require more attention from the time they are toddlers. Give a little boy some cars and he is happy playing alone for hours. Give some little girls a doll and they will verbally engage you as they dress, feed or move their dolls from one activity to another. Give a little girl who is a bit of a tomboy a doll and she will take it outdoors and ride it around on the back of her tricycle for hours.

From the first day of school some little girls will want to choose what outfit they will wear and what hair style they want. They will argue at length to get their way. On the other hand a kindergarten boy will dress in whatever he puts his hand on first; and only argues when he is sent back to change into something more appropriate, like clean.

Some girls want to spend time in the kitchen or helping with laundry. While their brothers and tomboy sisters will have to be told in no uncertain terms that they will help with these chores. At this age boys and girls need to be encouraged to find an activity outside of the home such as sports or dance. One of the key points to successful parenting is to encourage each child at an early age to engage in some enjoyable activity outside the home. My grandmother used to say a busy child is a happy child.

These patterns will usually continue until they reach their preteens. All of a sudden the boy starts asking for certain items, like a name brand pair of shoes or clean socks for soccer practice. Some girls will begin demanding trips to the mall or Wal-Mart for items they can no longer live without. This is also the age when the tomboy begins her metamorphous.

When some girls become teens they demand more money and time be spent on them with no consideration for the needs of their siblings or the household in general. But wait, all teens demand more than the family unit feels necessary; so some of these girls suddenly seem no more demanding than their siblings or peers.

Girls need to discuss everything that happens to them and if they feel their parent isn’t giving them total attention, they act out. On the other hand the parent usually has to ask their son what’s happening. There are clear differences to raising girls and boys. Neither job is easy. Most parents would agree that usually boys are easier to raise than girls simply because they take less time.

Girls who are demanding and act out are harder to deal with than boys because our society has set standards of acceptable behavior that demand girls behave but allow boys “some rope” as the saying goes.