Simple Ways Mothers can Make Children Feel Loved

It is important to the development of a child to feel loved and important.  A child who grows up feeling unloved and disregarded can develop issues with security and happiness later on in life.  If you are a parent busy with work, settling for buying your kid expensive gifts is not the same thing.  Gifts are nice to receive, but knowing it came from someone who cares about you is what matters most.  There are many ways that even a workaholic can reassure their children that they are loved.

“I Love You”

Telling your child you love him/her is not only simple, but common sense.  How much time does it take out of your day to say those three powerful words?  Just as it makes you feel happy and treasured, when your spouse or partner tells you “I love you,” your child will feel a similar way. 

Don’t make a routine out of telling your kid that you love them.  There’s nothing wrong with saying it every night before bedtime, but make sure that you also say it randomly.  It’s always the unexpected “I love you” that can brighten someone’s day. 

Praise

Whenever your child makes an accomplishment, such as getting an A on his/her math test, scoring a goal during the game, or overcoming a fear, it is important to always praise him/her.  Praising your children is a positive reinforcement, meaning they will be more likely to succeed.  All children enjoy being praised, even if they appear embarrassed.  It shows them that you are proud of them, which in turn makes them feel loved. 

Even if they don’t get an A on their math test, saying kind and encouraging words to them is the equivalent of praising.  Acknowledge that math may not be their strength, but they worked hard and tried their best.  It is important to be encouraging especially when it comes to activities or hobbies your child enjoys, such as drawing or basketball.  Without encouragement, your child begins to lose the self-confidence and self-esteem needed to be successful.  In addition, the child may begin to feel worthless and unloved.

Apologize

Whether you are apologizing to a spouse, friend, or family member, an apology goes a long way.  An apology is very meaningful to whoever receives it, because it shows him/her that you are able to acknowledge a mistake or simply losing your cool, and that you want to patch things up.  When it comes to a parent/child relationship, because the parent is, in a sense, an authority figure, it is less expected to ever hear an apology.  Apologizing, when you feel you have made a mistake or overreacted will not only set a great example for your child, but will show him/her that you care about his/her feelings and mean well.  In return, your child will feel more comfortable around you and can learn how to apologize in return, not only to you but to their peers as well.

Listen

Not only listening to what your child has to say, but remembering it is important.  Some parents complain they have no idea what’s going on in their teenager’s life.  So, whenever your kid wants to share something with you, don’t just brush him/her off.  Listen to him/her intently, and show that you are interested in what is being said to you.  Also, ask questions or add your opinion to the conversation.  It shouldn’t just be your child speaking, while you sit there saying nothing.  Children want you to contribute too, so that they know you care.  By listening to your children, you not only know what’s going on in their life, but you establish a bond with them too.

Spend Time Together

If you work a lot, it can be hard to find time to spend together, but not impossible.  The key to living a happy life is balancing your priorities, after all.  Spending time with your child can be anything you both agree on.  Some ideas are going out for coffee or ice cream, watching a movie, or playing a game.  By spending time with your child, you make him or her feel loved, while enhancing the bond.

Saying the three magic words, praising, apologizing, listening, and spending time together are all examples of ways to make your child feel loved without having to purchase the latest toys or cell phones.  Both you and your child will benefit from these tips, because they all establish and strengthen the bond between mother and child.