Signs your son or daughter might be gay

Without a doubt, there are some parents whose children walk a thin line between heterosexual and homosexual. While some may simply be experimenting, others may be making a legitimate effort to get to know themselves, their likes and dislikes, and their individual preferences. As a result, many parents often wonder whether or not their child is homosexual or heterosexual. So, how do you tell if your son or daughter is gay?

No matter how many Google searches you enter, no matter how many support groups you join, and no matter how many parents of gay children you talk to the bottom line is that there are simply no telltale “signs” of homosexuality. Some young children will send their parents into a frenzy if they happen to play with toys or engage in activities that are generally reserved for the opposite gender. However, more often than not, this does not mean that a child is gay. After all, not every “tomboy” girl turns out to be a lesbian.

Furthermore, just because a child appears to have more friends of one sex than another, does not necessarily mean that they are homosexual. In fact, if a boy spends more time with girls than he does with boys, it may be an indication that he is the polar opposite of gay. Perhaps he likes the attention from the girls, or (as is the case with many boys who live with a number of sisters), he may just feel more comfortable interacting with girls than with boys.

The bottom line is that the only way for a parent to be 100 percent certain that his or her child is gay is to ask. Even if you have just so happen to stumble across your child engaged in some form of “homosexual” activity, there is no guarantee that he or she is not just simply experimenting in an effort to get to know his or her personal preferences.

Many homosexual children will often make attempts to talk to their parents about any confusion that they may be experiencing when it comes to gender identity and sexual orientation. If you really want to know whether your son or daughter is gay, perhaps the best thing that you can do is ensure that you are listening whole-heartedly when and if he or she approaches you and broaches the topic. The more effort that you put into creating an environment where your child feels safe and free from judgment or criticism, the more likely it will be that he or she will eventually come to you in an effort to discuss his or her sexual orientation.

However, parents should also keep in mind that the mere desire to determine whether or not your child is gay might imply that you have preconceived prejudices and/or biases. Even the most open-minded parents will claim that they would have no problem having a gay child, but the fact that they are obsessed with classifying their children at all indicates otherwise. If you, as a parent, loved your child unconditionally and really did not care what your child’s sexual orientation was, you wouldn’t be so concerned about determining whether or not he or she was gay.