Should Gay Couples Adopt Children – No

Allowing homosexual couples to adopt children would create a devastating environment for the children they adopt. As children grow and develop in such family environments, there are bound to be numerous negative consequences.

During pregnancy, even when no one else is around, a baby is constantly surrounded by the sounds emanating from inside the mother’s body, and the sounds coming from outside. Every time the mother communicates to one of her other children, her spouse, talks on the phone or reads out loud, the baby hears. Naturally, upon birth, the baby will seek the mother’s voice.

Even in the case of placing babies up for general adoption, babies are deprived of the familiar voice of their mother and will listen for the sound of her voice. In time, as other voices become more prominent, those become the voices babies listen for.

When babies are placed with a couple in which a woman is present, whether heterosexual or lesbian, they may find more initial comfort in the absence of the mother’s voice. However, to place babies in the household of homosexual men would be robbing them. They wouldn’t have the benefit of a constant female presence in their lives to nurture them at such a vulnerable age.

In the case of lesbian couples:

Susie was adopted by a lesbian couple at birth. She grew from a baby into a toddler and was showered with love and affection by both of her mothers. She didn’t watch much television but, instead, spent most of her time playing with one of her moms, unless a friend of one of her moms came over with her little girl. (Becoming confusing yet?)

Time continues and Susie begins to hear her friends talk about their dads. She wonders what a dad is. She begins to watch more television and, at one point, she sees men and women relating to each other as her parents do – they hug, kiss, and hold hands – and there it comes: a little girl runs onto the television screen calling out to her mom and dad. Susie begins to wonder why she has two moms and no dad.

More time passes and Susie branches out into the real world of visiting parks and, later, going to school. She hears many of the students talking about their parents as “Mom and Dad” and they look at Susie funny when she mentions her two moms. Susie begins to feel confused and frightened.

Regardless of the love and affection shown towards Susie, she has become an insecure child. She wants to be like all the other kids, with a mom and dad, but she doesn’t want to hurt her two moms.

One day, Susie asked her moms if they could marry a guy so she would have a mom and dad like all the other students in her class. She told them how she was tired of being teased and made fun of because she had two “Moms.” She stated that she didn’t want to go to school anymore because it made her too sad. She’d rather stay in her room and play with her dolls. Of course, her two mothers told her it wasn’t possible for either of them to marry a guy, to which Susie felt more bereft than ever.

Susie remained living in the environment with two moms as her parents, but she had become a social outcast. Her home life was just too different. No one wanted their children to play with her, so Susie spent most time by herself because, by this time, she had come to resent both of her mothers.

Susie grew to become a teenager and resentment hung like a black cloud wherever she went. People resented her and vice versa. The light that used to shine in Susie’s eyes was replaced by a fog of confusion and desperation. She was fifteen when she took an overdose of drugs and died as a result.

In the case of homosexual men:

Tommy came screeching out of the womb and didn’t settle down until he heard his mother’s voice. Immediately, the intense wailing stopped, replaced by little hiccups as he settled onto his mother’s chest. However, for unexplained reasons, two days later his mother died.

Not knowing who Tommy’s father was, since his mother hadn’t disclosed the information, and with no one coming forward to claim him, Tommy became a ward of the state. He was placed up for adoption and, whenever he was awake, he would cry.

Many heterosexual couples were interested in adopting Tommy, but a homosexual couple seemed to take particular interest in him and wanted to adopt him immediately. Not much time had passed when, with paperwork in hand, the couple took Tommy home to live with them.

Tommy still cried, but the men could not provide much comfort to him. The harder they tried, the louder his cries became. Not knowing what to do, they called a mutual female friend, Bonnie, who was married to one of their buddies. She came over without hesitation and the baby was soothed for the first time since his mother died. He fell asleep in her arms and she was reluctant to put him down. However, he wasn’t her son and she had to get back home.

During the first couple years of Tommy’s life, Bonnie was oncall. Tommy just didn’t seem to settle down without her but, when she arrived, he would be smiling and begin laughing and playing.

The men wondered what to do. It was obvious Tommy was not happy unless Bonnie was with him, but she couldn’t just move in. They figured that he would soon get over his desire to constantly have Bonnie around. They presumed wrong but, as Tommy got older, they began to force the issue of Tommy depending on them alone. After all, they were his parents and they wanted to meet his needs.

Meanwhile, Bonnie was becoming concerned. On the rare occasion she saw Tommy over the years, outwardly he seemed OK but, deep inside, she felt something was wrong. He wasn’t the happy little guy she used to spend so much time with. Brushing her concerns aside, she went on with her life the best she could.

A few years passed and, one day while shopping for groceries, Bonnie ran into a five-year-old Tommy and his two dads in a grocery store. Tommy was clearly upset when a woman approached him, telling him how beautiful he was. When she patted his cheek, Tommy stiffened and pulled away as though repulsed by the contact.

His fathers didn’t notice anything amiss but alarm bells went off inside Bonnie’s head. She approached the men and Tommy, asking how they were. The men made conversation but Tommy showed no interest, which broke Bonnie’s heart. However, she only did what was requested of her by his parents – to keep her distance so the men could bond with him, though it broke her heart to do so.

Bonnie observed that Tommy didn’t notice when a man touched his shoulder, or patted him on the head. He would smile at them and, perhaps, make a short comment. Noticing his reaction to a female touch further broke Bonnie’s heart. It was obvious Tommy wasn’t having any form of female influence in his life, going by his apparent revulsion of being too close to members of the opposite sex.

Twelve years later, at the age of seventeen, Bonnie’s deepest fears had been realized. Tommy had pronounced himself to be gay when, essentially, he hadn’t permitted himself to explore contact with women to learn how he truly felt. He followed the example set before him throughout his life and was always more comfortable around men.


The above cases show you how detrimental it is to society to have children raised by same-sex couples. All children become affected by it; children raised by both heterosexual and homosexual couples have issues they don’t understand, and feel confused.

According to the Bible, same sex relationships are an abomination to God. That being said, it must be doubly abominable to raise children in relationships God does not honor.