Parenting Tips how to Eliminate a Childs Screaming

Children who scream can be an irritant to many adults, including their own parents.  There are times that it seems there is no break to be had from a child’s screaming, but the truth is that with a little work, and a lot of patience, this is a problem that can be overcome.  It is just a matter of making sure that your child knows what is a appropriate, and what is not appropriate, and acts on that knowledge.

The first and hardest thing that any parent must do in changing their child’s behavior is to take a good, long, hard look at his/her own behavior.  This self-reflection may not always give the prettiest picture, but it is necessary.  If parents tend to yell easily or lose patience easily, then the children will, too.  If the parents tend to give in when the child screams, just to have some peace, this could also exacerbate the problem.  As a parent, you really do need to take a close look at your own behavior to make sure that you are not part of the problem.  If you are displaying behavior that tells your child it’s okay to scream, you need to stop.

After you have taken a look at yourself and how you may be contributing to the problem, it is time to address the behavior that you want to change.  If you are trying to change a pattern of screaming, the best way to address this is to stay calm when your child starts in.  If you feel yourself wanting to give in, or wanting to yell back, stop for a minute and count to ten (or as high as you need to) in order to keep yourself calm.  Speak softly when you speak to your child, even in the midst of your child’s screaming.  This forces your child to have to strain to hear you, and often works as a deterrent to screaming.

If it is at all possible, take your child somewhere quiet when he/she starts screaming.  The quieter the surroundings the easier it will be on you and your child.  This may mean leaving malls and stores a little sooner than you had planned, but after doing this for a while, you will not have to anymore.  If you are at home, you may want to set up a “quiet place.”  This can be in your child’s room.  It can be on the living room sofa if necessary.  It just has to be someplace that your child can go to calm down.  Unlike with other behaviors, it is not a good idea to call your child into time-out.  Instead, let your child know that you are giving him/her time to calm down so that you can talk nicely.

The final and most important thing that you must do in order to stop this behavior is to remain consistent.  Anytime that your child resorts to screaming, it is up to you to make sure that you do not tolerate it, nor do you wind up screaming or yelling back.  As time progresses, you will see the improvement in your child’s behavior as long as you remain consistent.