Parenting Styles Uninvolved Parents

Parents who are uninvolved are often branded as neglectful, indifferent or dismissive parents. There are four categories of parenting styles, authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and uninvolved. Uninvolved parents are often seen as “hands off” parents, who are often laid-back and impassive towards their children. In the worst cases, this type of parenting could be seen as neglectful or even abusive.

Sometimes parents who have an uninvolved style of parenting their children are seen as indifferent and not emotionally invested in their child’s life. Some parents may not do the most basic things, like supervise what their children are doing. These types of parents are not involved in their child’s life, however they will provide the most basic needs, such as; a home, food and getting their child to school.

Parents who are uninvolved in their child’s life are often dealing with problems of their own. How a parent ultimately chooses to raise their children comes down to how they were programmed in the past. Parents that are uninvolved may have their own ghosts from the past to overcome as perhaps their childhood consisted of parents who were uninvolved too. Some uninvolved parents are too caught up with their own lives and just do not have the time to pay attention to their children. These parents could have drug, alcohol or mental health issues they are dealing with and trying to overcome.

Uninvolved parents do not place a high importance on setting limits and boundaries and these parents do not generally show their children very much love or affection. This is seen as harmful to a child’s development and growth. Parents who are uninvolved are not psychologically present for their children. They might be physically available, but it’s not enough.

Most parents who are uninvolved in their child’s lives’ will do as little as possible in terms of being involved in with their children. They will not attend sporting events or other school activities they are invited too. They do not come to parent teacher meetings or participate in anything related to things that their child is involved with.

An uninvolved parent or parents always put their needs and wants ahead of their child’s needs or wants. This can negatively influence the relationship a parent has with their child. Most uninvolved parents are unable to encourage, influence or even teach their children. Because of the parent’s indifference towards their child, they don’t have the knowledge on how to influence their child in the right way, because they have spent no time getting to know their child and there are seriously lacking in how to provide the simple basic needs in their child’s life, not to mention anything complicated.

Uninvolved parents are often dealing with financial, emotional and relationship stress, the impact of this on their children can be horrifying, children need reassurance and not to see these problems played out in front of them, which is what many uninvolved parents do. It really can be all about them. Children who have parents like this will often feel isolated and pushed aside. Children can suffer from anxiety, fear and loneliness. It is also not uncommon for uninvolved parents to be alcoholics or drug addicts. This may result in the children becoming parents to the parents. This kind of dynamic is not healthy and does not benefit the child’s future in any way.

Children who come from uninvolved parents will grow up with serious damage. They will be fearful of getting too close to someone for fear of rejection. It will take a long time to trust others and for that child to feel as though they can depend on someone else. These children may seriously doubt in their ability to provide for their own needs when they become independent. They may also end up parenting their own children using these parenting techniques, because it is all they know.

If you believe that you have been harmed by your parents during your childhood, then it is really important that you see professional help. Get referred to a good counselor and with time you should be able to heal from your unhealthy childhood.