Parenting a Difficult Teenager

Teenagers and Hormones go hand-in-hand. It seems like you cannot have one without the other in my house. Parenting a teenager can often seem like the most difficult challenge a parent can face at one time.  My oldest son has just turned 13 and it seems he has turned into someone that I do not know. 

There is one think that I have learned to help me get through parenting my difficult teenager. Patience- the one thing that I keep reminding myself of every day and sometimes even a few times each day. With all of his ups and downs in one day, it has to take a lot of patience to make it through an afternoon or even a whole weekend with him.

One day he loves school and the next day he hates it and wants to be home schooled. One day is never wants to play football again and then the next day can’t wait for the season to begin. One day he wants to be around me and it seems like he actually likes me and then the next day it seems as if I am his least favorite person in the entire world. My feelings are hurt by him almost every day and sometimes more than once in a day. 

To get through the teenage years, patience is the most important thing a parent can have. It takes patience to listen to a child talk so negatively about almost everything and be so disrespectful. If a child is just given some time when being disrespectful or negative to work through his or her emotions, this difficult moment will pass and then their sweet personally will shine through in a matter of moments.

It takes patience to realize that a teenager is being overpowered by hormones and cannot help some of the things he or she is saying or doing.  Pitching a fit about doing homework or chores or grunting when you begin to ask questions about school all have to be ignored. It is much easier to walk away patiently and come back once this tense moment has passed for him or her. 

It also takes a lot of patience to remember that the present attitude of a teenager is not going to last forever. This IS just a part of growing up. It really IS just a phase. His or her body is changing, both mentally and physically. It is hard on both the teenager and the parent. It will take a lot of work from each one to successfully get through this time period.