Nature vs Nurture Compassionate Personality Traits

Defining Compassion’s Impact on Society

We live in a world of isolation. Even in our homes, we often find ourselves alone. There is a need to get ahead, avoid being let go, and feel important through outside means. We have reversed our values, morphing into independent creatures of habit, as opposed to cultural societies that help each other. We trust our instincts, but not our hearts.

Instincts, while being necessary, do not fall into the realm of compassionate behavior. Mothers instinctually feed and care for their offspring. They protect their babies from imminent danger, and teach them to fend for themselves. Even animals do that. Instinct acts for the common good of the group it is a part of, but does not recognize the pain and suffering of others. It is about surviving, and getting ahead at any cost, personally or as a group.

Compassionate people not only notice the plight of others, but they also take the time to intervene. Theirs is a life of service and outreach to all, often at the expense of comfort for themselves. This type of living goes against nature. It is not easy to exemplify. Yet, it is the very thing children do readily, and will continue to do if they are taught its value.

Compassion is a spiritual trait. It flees from ill gained goods, profits, and acknowledgments. Its purpose is to be kind, without ulterior motives. Children do this without thinking. Sure, they have their moments when they don’t want to share, but they are also very compassionate when a butterfly has a broken wing. Reinforcing gentleness in children gives them a desire to repeat random acts of kindness.

Compassionate people do not worry when others make fun of them for being genuine. It has often been said that adults should be more like little children. This is because children don’t get caught up in creating an image for themselves. Many adults attempt to hide their flaws, and boost their egos, to avoid being ridiculed. They make a point to only present their best face to the public. Children learn to be compassionate when they see adults accept humility with grace.

Compassionate people are involved in the cares of the world. They don’t run for office, promising to use their power effectively if elected. These are the people who work behind the scenes, for the sake of peace and justice. They teach children compassion, by taking care of others who would have little hope without them. People who are compassionate are the doers of society. They seldom become bored, understanding and serving the needs of others.

While their popularity soars, as people seek them out for assistance or to acknowledge their heroism, compassionate people shy away from the crowd. Nothing they do is out of pride. They make choices because they are necessary and beneficial to those in need. Children who are exposed to their example learn the importance of selfless giving. They become acquainted with people in all sorts of situations, as a matter of reality, not prejudice. They understand what is required to help as well, because their role models were caring and full of compassion.

Forgiveness is another trait of compassionate people. They are not prone to hold grudges. Nor do they cherish the thought of being right. For them, it isn’t about being better, but making the entire world a better place for everyone. Children who are taught to work through their differences, and let go of their anger, will be more open to what caused someone to strike, rather than the strike itself. They will have self control, and manage their relationships peacefully.

Ultimately, compassionate people recognize how little they are in the grand scheme of things. They do not have overly inflated egos; nor do they have to be right all the time. They are well rounded individuals, intelligent, caring, and friendly. Children are naturally attracted to their goodness, and learn to follow their lead by example. They learn to give what they have received.