Is it asking too much to Expect a thank you from a 8 10 Year old Grandchild

No, it is not too much to expect a thank you from an 8-10 year old grandchild. In fact, I would think that anywhere from 6 years old is not too much to expect.

It is definitely the parents that instill good manners in a young child. The parents don’t instill good manners by reciting how they expect the child to respond; it is instilled by parents who teach their children to be happy with what they have and what they receive. Then, the “good manners” come almost naturally.

My little granddaughters are 5 and 3 years old. I live about 3 hours away from them, so for Valentine’s Day I sent them each a card and a small gift: Valentine socks with hearts on them, and a set of hair accessories for each of them. That was it.

The next day, after the gift was received, I got a message on my answering machine from my daughter thanking me for the “adorable” socks and hair accessories. Then, she put my 5 year old granddaughter on the phone. I was blown away, when she said – in the sweet small voice of a 5 year old: “Thank you, Gigi, for the socks and barrettes. Of all the presents you have given me, this is my favorite – of all time.”

“Of all time”! My heart just melted! Where did she come up with that? It came from her little (big) heart. And, that was my gift!

It’s not always a good thing that most children,these days, have so much – of everything! My own granddaughters do not have extravagant things, but they have a room full of every kind of stuffed animal, dolls, games and an abundance of clothes. I often wonder what in the world to give them as each occasion approaches, and because they do have so much, I usually end up giving them little items – cute things, that don’t cost very much either.
And,yet, they are so happy and grateful whenever they receive a gift.

With this attitude at a very young age, I have no reason to believe that they would suddenly become callous and ungrateful at an older age. There will come a time – at different stages in their growth – when they will be “too busy” with activities and friends to want to “sit down and write” a Thank You note, but I certainly don’t see anything wrong with a verbal “thank you”. I’m pretty sure I’ll get one.