How to Instill Good Behavior in Children

Every parent and caregiver wants to have happy, positive behavior from their children. Positive behavior promotes happiness, confidence and is good for healthy well-being. In addition, it prevents unwanted behaviors from occurring, and allows for better behavior all round. Even children that are difficult can be encouraged to become more positive and better behaved. Giving children the best start in life can give them a brighter, happier future.

How can you encourage positive behavior in children?

• Practice positivity

It is important to model the behavior you expect to see from your children, as they learn from their caregivers. Being a positive force is essential to lead the way and set the example. Being positive raises the spirit and boosts mood, as well as encouraging good behavior. Model the behavior you want to see in your children and set the example to see the difference it makes.

• Praise

Children need to be praised in order to know that they have done well and that they have been successful. This is important for not only their confidence, but to instill a positive feeling. Being acknowledged for their efforts encourages good behavior and positivity. Always give praise where praise is due, and look for the good in your child.

• Discipline

Whilst praise and positivity is essential, discipline is also a necessary part of parenting. Children need boundaries and rules to feel grounded, and also need to believe that there is always room for improvement. Discipline needs to be appropriate and only when and where needed. Decide what behavior needs to be addressed, and what can be ignored. Picking on every little thing does neither of you any good.

• Give a sense of importance

Children need to feel important and needed. Children need to know that they are loved, appreciated and are capable of success. There are many ways to make your child feel good and important, from sharing time together, giving praise and showing love. In addition, include her in family life and give her responsibilities to allow her to feel self-sufficient and useful. She will feel important if she is trusted with what seems like important tasks to her.

• Be clear

When giving your child instructions always be clear and remain positive, as this gives her the chance to give a positive response. Being simple and clear is also better for children, as they are likely to better understand. The same goes for punishment, keep it simple and be clear. Let her know what she has done wrong and how it makes you feel. Avoid going off on a tangent, as this only brings both of you down and it doesn’t do any good. Short and simple is always better for children.

Find the good in your child and take the time to acknowledge and praise where necessary. Not forgetting that children need boundaries and rules where necessary, too.  Being too strict and issuing punishment too frequently is damaging and can instill negativity in children. Choose your battles carefully, and consider if the behavior needs to be addressed before wading in. Children need a good balance in life with praise, rules and boundaries. They also need love and care to be able to thrive and be at their best.