How to Identify if your Teen is a Bully

The easiest way to identify if your teenager is a bully is to look inside the home. Bully-like tendencies are easy to spot if there are other children in the home. Make sure to observe interactions between your children. Fighting does not necessarily mean bullying, but there should be some sense of respect that is noticeable when observing their interactions. This is just a preliminary step to approach the idea that your teenager could be a bully, rather than that other teenaged child is a bully.

The next step is to observe interactions between your teenager and his or her friends. Is there a sense of respect between them? Do they generally treat each other well? Respect is a common theme when determining if someone gets the title of being a bully. Bullying shows a lack of respect for the individual(s) and generally that lack of respect tends to leak over to other relationships in the bully’s life. If you start to see your teenager treat others poorly, this is one of the most reliable sources of evidence that your child could be a bully. This is only a second step to approach the idea of whether your teenager could be a bully.

Though in today’s world it is more common for people to speak up against bullying, many who are bullied and/or observe bullying still fail to speak out. Because it is still rare enough that one does speak out, do not ignore it. Take every case very seriously. It is more frequent that a teacher will be the one that acknowledges that bullying is taking place. Often parents disregard or think it is impossible that their wonderful child could be a bully. Fortunately, all the “Stand up to bullying” campaigns have made great strides in making parents aware of potential bullying among their child. If you had not came to the conclusion yet that your teenager was a bully, the final and most obvious sign is when a teacher contacts you. If it comes to this step, this is most likely not the first incident where your teenager was bullying, just the first that was recorded.

It is important throughout all of these steps that you talk to your teenager about respect. Lack of respect is the great punch line as to why people bully. If you do not respect the other person, you are exponentially raising the likelihood of bullying them. If your child has been raised to be respectful of others, fixing this issue will be easier than it may seem. Continue to remind your teenager about the importance of respect. Respect is a vital quality to have successful human interaction throughout one’s life.

Hopefully, this information will help you identify if your teenager is a bully. First, look inside the home to identify any bully-like tendencies. Then look at your teenager’s relationships with others and see if anything seems astray. Finally, make sure to be an active participant in your teenager’s education. Remember to always stress respect, and with respect bullying will cease to exist.