How to Fight Back against a Cyberbully

You’ve just discovered that your teen is being cyberbullied. What should you do? You can’t ignore it. Cyberbullies tend to not go away by themselves. You need to tell your teen what to do next. You also need to help protect your teen from future online attacks.

Tell bully to stop contacting teen

You or your teen needs to go online and send a simple message to the cyberbully – “Please do not contact me anymore.” You do not need to write any more than that. Your teen also cannot contact this person anymore, no matter how badly the online harassment gets. The Guardian Angels notes that bullies thrive on attention. Ignoring the bully may help the bully to go elsewhere.

Record everything

Make copies of the cyberbully’s communications with your teen. Copy or make screen savers of emails, instant messages, text messages, blog comments, chats or posts on social media sights. Make sure these communications are dated. If the bully keeps on harassing your teen after getting the message to leave your teen alone, this will make your case look stronger to any authorities.

Make a separate bully file

Keep a physical or a computer file containing all of the copies of the bully’s harassing communications. Place copies of any new communications in this file. Make sure each entry is dated. If you are not positive of the date, give it your best guess. This file will become crucial evidence in your case against the cyberbully. Working on it can help you and your teen get rid of energy that comes from anger and frustration.

Contact the authorities

If the cyberbully is your teen’s classmate, contact the principle. Show the principal the bully’s harassing messages in order to prove that the student is in fact cyberbullying your child. If your child is getting bullied through the hone, contact the phone company for help. If your child is getting bullied through email, contact the bully’s email provider for help. If the bully is going to social websites, blogs, forums, chat rooms or any other type of website to harass your teen, contact the webmaster for help.

What about the police?

Notify the police whenever a cyberbully threatens physical or sexual violence to your teen, to other family members or the teen’s pets. Show a copy of your file to the police. Going to a police is not an overreaction. It’s better to be safe than sorry.