How to Ease Separation Anxiety for Infants

Easing separation anxiety with infants is a lot more difficult a task than it is with older children. Infants lack the emotional growth and spatial sense requisite of such understanding. When trying to deal with an infant suffering from separation anxiety, it is best to try a lot of practice runs beforehand. Through trial and error, you may be able to figure out the best way to be separated from your infant.

Infants suffer from separation anxiety as an instinct of survival. They only understand that their mother, their source of love, affection, and nutrition, has left their side. This is a traumatic feeling, and one that needs to be eased for the sake of both mother and infant. Attempting to figure out a coping mechanism for your infant that will aid in the easing of separation anxiety could well be a lengthy process.

Every infant is similar, yet different in the manner in which they go about dealing with separation. To some infants, it seems to be the worst possible scenario, while others may deal well with separation. Anxiety fears need to be addressed, and could lead to problems later in life if the child is unwilling to part ways briefly with his or her mother. This anxiety will also trouble the mother a great deal, and could place untold stress and worry on her.

Parental anxiety outweighs infant anxiety at this stage in their symbiotic relationship. Once the parent deals with their own psychological issues, then an honest effort can be made to help appease the anxiety of separation for infants. A parent should always make a big fuss over their infant when it is time to leave them. Lots of gentle kisses and warm embraces will help your infant to feel your bond. Speaking to your infant in hushed tones can also soothe their soul.

Try to remember that a baby needs to adapt to your lifestyle. Infants are resilient and will learn how to deal with your leaving them in due time. It is unfair to only leave while they are sleeping, since this is not practical, and will only set you both up for failure later on once they become older.

Infants depend on their parents for every facet of their life. Without help from their parents, they are virtually helpless. Since it is impossible to be with your child twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week, there needs to be some time when baby and parents are separated. This separation is beneficial to both parents and baby, in that the parents are offered a chance to refresh themselves, and the baby is able to adapt to its ever-changing environment. A refreshed parent is better able to deal with the stress and dependency of a fussy baby. Separation anxiety can make this difficult, and many infants feel the ramifications of separation anxiety. Easing your own anxiety may go a long way to helping ease your infant’s anxiety.

By letting your infant cry once in a little while, not only will their lungs be developing and their vocal chords stretching and strengthening, they will eventually learn the notion that mommy and daddy may not always be there right away to solve all of their problems. It is extremely difficult to allow your infant to cry and not rush to their aid and console them, but you need to learn how to do this. If you rush in and coddle your infant every single time that they are fussy, they will learn this behavior and continue to use it to their advantage. The infant needs to know that mommy and daddy will return eventually, and that it is all right to be alone for a while, or under the care of a temporary guardian.

If you love your child constantly, and always reassure them that they are loved, and that you will always return to them, they will not fret as much about being left alone or with an alternate caregiver. The infant needs to know that you will return, so it is imperative that you always return, obviously. Stretching out your separation time slowly and consistently will help your infant to deal with your absence. By leaving for short periods of time, you will be able to guage, within reasonable limits, how much time you can leave your infant for at a time. Increasing this time period slowly and methodically will be healthy and beneficial to you and your infant.

Leaving your infant behind once in a while if you go shopping or out on a date as husband and wife can also force your infant to rely on another person for support and to cater to their every need. As long as you have consistent routines, your infant will learn these routines and accept them as normal. If you rarely leave your child’ side, they will become accustomed to your presence, and will have a more difficult time with separation anxiety. By preparing them adequately as infants, then the transitions from toddler to preschooler will become easier and less stressful. Separation anxiety changes through the years, strengthening and weakening of its own accord.

You can practice by leaving your infant for a few minutes, and then incrementally increasing the amount of time that you leave them until you reach a significant amount of time. Your infant will adapt and overcome all of the little ups and downs associated with their growth and maturity. If you leave your child with an article of your clothing that has your scent on it, your infant may also cuddle up to the clothing and feel secure.

Utilizing these tips can aid in easing the burden of separation anxiety. Time heals all wounds, and separation anxiety in infants is no exception. Allow some time for yourself. Your infant will thank you, and your own body, mind, and soul will thank you as well.