How to deal with a rough toddler

Children can become rough at around the age of two to three years. This is quite normal, but can cause upset for parents and others. Many toddlers can have a rough streak where they don’t actually understand or realize that they are being rough. For toddlers that are rough, the phase should be outgrown overtime; however, you can intervene to change the behavior. Changing your child’s behavior can bring a great sense of relief and make life easier and more harmonious.

How can you calm a rough toddler?

Model the right behavior

Toddlers are still learning how to behave accordingly. The learned behaviors are from influential sources that have a big impact on your child. Take a look around to see where the rough behavior is being learned from. Is everyone in the immediate family showing a caring attitude? Are your child’s friends kind and well-behaved? Besides observing you the parents, your child has many other sources that impact his or her behavior. You, the parents, need to model the behavior that is expected to lead the way. In addition, make any changes needed to remove negatives influences.

Teach right from wrong

Teach your child appropriate behavior to enable him or her to grow into a well-rounded individual that gets along in society. When you observe your child being overly rough to you, others or his belongings you must step in. Let your child know that this is no way to behave. Your child must come to understand that the behavior he or she is exhibiting isn’t permitted. If your child is not told, how can he or she know? Use the right language, and refrain from punishing your child. Instead, let him or her know that the behavior isn’t acceptable and explain how it makes you feel.

Turn that behavior around

If your child is being rough, let him or her know that it isn’t acceptable. Keep it simple and use a low tone to inform him or her that the behavior is not acceptable. Using a stern and serious voice and showing your disapproval should be enough. Once your child realizes that he or she cannot continue being rough, tell him or her why the behavior isn’t acceptable. Keep it short and be matter-of-fact about it while being serious. Now, move on. Don’t dwell on the behavior, as this can leave a negative and lasting impression. Once you have corrected your child and explained, you must move on.

Encourage the right behavior

Give your child the opportunity to be at his or her best. Exemplify the qualities you want your child to exhibit and work with him or her. Encourage good behavior and build on this. Your child can only learn how to be a kind and caring soul if he or she is shown how. Once he or she has been shown how to be a compassionate individual ensure to focus on this and continue to encourage it. Encouragement goes a long way and can help your child be a better person. Your child wants to be good, he or she just needs to be shown how and given encouragement.

Positive reinforcement

If you expect good behavior you must find a positive force. When you witness your child being good, kind and gentle, give praise to acknowledge this. Even for the smallest effort, acknowledge it to encourage this behavior. The more you show how pleased you are, the more your child will do to please you. Children aim to please their parents, and in doing so they are rewarded with a good feeling. Tune in to your child and give recognition for his or her good efforts. The more positive you are, the more positive your child will be.

Toddlers are at an impressionable stage and learn from influential sources. Parents can shape their children and guide them to become the best they can be. If your child is rough, you can turn this around and change his or her behavior. Have patience and be encouraging. Look for the good and focus on this. Remember your child is still learning what is and isn’t acceptable behavior. With your help and guidance, your child can learn right from wrong to be the best that he or she can be.