How to Communicate with Children who Refuse to Listen

Make your voice heard even when you are not being listened to. If you have to, find a new voice. Look for creative outlets to get your message across. Maybe you can use a favorite cartoon character, or song to catch the child’s attention. Stand tall, even if you have to repeat yourself so much that you sound like a broken record. Pretty soon, they will get the point. They might not like it but they heard you loud and clear.

Put your foot down. Do not cave in and let your child have their way. You are the boss and you should remain that way. No means no. If you tell your child not to do something and they disobey you, then they should suffer the consequences. If you let things slide, prepare to be walked all over.

Keep a list of house rules posted where your children can see them. Update the rule lists as needed. You should also post chore charts. Your kids will know what is expected of them, and should you have less reason to question things. Treat everyone equally. Don’t bend or break the rules for anyone. As long as you stay fair, you have a better chance of maintaining the upper hand.

Some parents find that offering rewards for rule following and good behavior is the best way to communicate their point. If your child does their homework and you don’t have to blow out your voice box yelling at them then let them know you notice and appreciate the effort put forth. Compliments can go a long way. Kids like to feel like they have done something right. Make them a certificate, buy them a treat, or take them out for pizza.

Don’t yell and scream all the time. No matter how mad you get, try to keep a calm voice through the situation. If you need to walk away and get your cool together, do so. Don’t ever use violence and raw anger to get your child to listen. Teach your child that it is not okay to intimidate or use your power to hurt another.

Perhaps the most important thing of all is that we listen. If we want our kids to listen to us, we should also listen to them. Keep an open relationship with your child. Let them know that you value all of their opinions and if they have a problem, no matter what it is, they should come to you. Parenting isn’t always easy but it doesn’t have to be hard either. Meet your kids half way. Instead of working against each other, work together and pretty soon you will find that talking to each other is one of your favorite past times.