How to change a teens negative attitude

It can seem that many teenagers have a negative attitude. This is due in part to the fact that transitioning from child to teenager is difficult. There are many changes and uncertainties, which can be overwhelming and unnerving for some. Once a child hits the teen years, everything starts to change as they are entering into adulthood. Many responsibilities need to be upheld, and teenagers can feel pressurized. Difficulties and challenges can be hard on a teenager, causing stress and anger. This can turn into a negative attitude, which can become problematic.

How can you change a teenager’s negative attitude?

Care and understanding

Teenagers are a group of people that can be misjudged and often seen as difficult. With this, it can be easy to get fraught with a teenager, as they seem like hard work. However, the teenager is most likely finding the world difficult. All of the changes and responsibilities lie heavy on a teen. Instead of losing focus of what it is like to be a teenager, try to get into their mind-frame and be understanding. While it may seem like a teen wants to push everyone away, this is far from real. What they need is a caring and understanding person in their life.

The power of words

It is amazing how your words, tone of voice and delivery of a response to your teen can impact his or her mood and attitude. If you are brutal in approach, and respond in a like-for-like way, you can expect to get very little resolve. Teenagers may seem standoffish and difficult; however, treated with care, you can unlock a new attitude. Speak to your teen with care and admiration and be gentle but forthright in your approach. This can make all the difference in the way your teen reacts and responds to you. Think before reacting, be calm, be kind and gentle, no matter how your teen appears.

Be a friend

Teenagers can feel very isolated, as they are going through some radical changes. It can feel like their whole world is turning upside down, which they may not be ready or equipped for. Instead, of goading your teen and causing further aggravation, be there. Be a friend. A teenager needs nothing more than to be understood and have someone be there for them. The way in which you can be there, is by spending time with your teen. Find fun activities to do together. While this may prove a challenge, it is possible.

Find a positive

Encourage your teen to try a new hobby. This may take a bit of effort to initiate; however, this can make a world of difference. Instead of giving your idea, give your teen ideas that he or she can consider. Let your teen make the choice and pursue the one that interests him or her. Enjoying and forming a hobby is a great self-esteem and confidence booster. The good feeling that is gained from enjoying something is uplifting and rejuvenating. Allow your teen to explore different activities and show a vested interest.

Be a positive driving force

While there may be many occasions where you get annoyed with your teen and his or her attitude, do you look for the good? It is essential for your teen’s self-confidence and assurance that you praise and acknowledge the good and his or her achievements. A positive vote of confidence can make all the difference to your teen and how he or she feels. Getting a little positive feedback and praise once in a while is good for morale and happiness. Your teen needs that boost from time to time so find the good and acknowledge it.

Don’t expect too much from your teen, allow him or her to adjust into adulthood at his or her own pace. Avoid being critical at every opportunity, as this only dint’s your teens pride and self-esteem. Instead, bring out the best in your teen by looking for ways to be encouraging and positive. Praise and positive feedback are very much appreciated and go a long way towards improving your teens confidence and happiness levels. Self-belief and happiness can grow from your love, care and understanding. Be a friend, a caring soul and a parent to your teen when he or she needs it most.