How Parents can Size up their Teenage Daughters new Boyfriend

When your teenage daughter gets a new boyfriend it can be a scary time for everyone involved, naturally you worry about her being safe or being pressured into doing something that she does not want to do. And since teenagers are so secretive, you will find out very little about the boyfriend from her. The only real way to size up your teenage daughters new boyfriend is to be observant and clever.

The first way to size him up is to listen to how your daughter talks about him; this is not always the most reliable because teenagers can fall in “love” very quickly. But listen to the way she speaks about him, listen to the words that she uses, are they positive and listen to the way she speaks about him to make sure that she is not scared or worried by him.

Look at a picture of him, they say you should never judge a book by its cover, but you can tell a lot about a book by its cover. Try not to judge too much, but look at the way he is dressed, if he looks dirty and scruffy then this will give you a good idea of what to expect.

Meeting him is the only real way to size up her boyfriend, try to facilitate a meeting and see how he behaves. Don’t be too intimidating because that’s unfair to him because he hasn’t actually done anything wrong yet, it’s also unfair to your daughter because it will really upset her.

Observe how he acts around you, how are his manners? Simple tests such as whether he sites down before he is asked or he says please and thank you will determine what kind of person he is. Manners are essential and a lack of manners shows a lack of respect.

Observe how he acts around your daughter, is he being kind to her, touching her hand? Or is he ignoring her? You will also need to observe how she acts around him, if she seems to be nervous of him or she is doing everything for him and he doesn’t offer to help then you may have a problem on your hands.

A great test of a boy’s character is how he acts around animals, if you have an animal then let him see it, if he shows no interest or seems agitated with it then this is a bad sign. If he seems to be tender with the animal hen this is a positive thing.

Sizing up your teenage daughters’ boyfriend is a tricky thing, but you are the best judge of how your daughter is behaving so observe how she is with him and you can’t go wrong.