How often to try when You’re trying to get Pregnant

This is a good question that most longing-to-be mothers wonder about. Amazingly, getting pregnant largely depends on the timing of your sex with respect to ovulation, rather than just the frequency.

What is ovulation?
You must be wondering what this magic word ovulation means. To make it simple from a layman’s perspective, ovulation is the process where the female sex organs (ovaries) produce an egg and other bodily changes occur in a female in order to prepare for a pregnancy. This egg has to be fertilized by a sperm from the male partner in order for pregnancy (conception) to take place.

Time of ovulation:
It has been established by most schools of medicine that ovulation occurs somewhere midway between two cycles of menstrual periods.
Although ovulation time varies a bit from woman to woman, it can be roughly timed as the 14th to 16th day from the first day of your last period. For example, if your first day of your period has been on the 1st of January and you have a 30-day cycle, you will probably ovulate between the 14th to 16th of January. Ovulation in a woman is said to last for about a week. So it would make sense to have sex anytime between this week. However, it seems from most published articles that the best time would be when you are at the peak of your ovulation.

Peak of ovulation:
The most common way to know that you are ovulating is by examining your cervical mucus. Just after your period, the cervical mucus, or the fluid released from your vagina is dense, tacky and sparse. You can make out your peak period of ovulation when your cervical mucus secretion is increased and the quality of the mucus is very slippery, and would resemble raw egg whites. The cervical mucus usually deposits on panties, and could also be passed out during urination. So it would be a good idea to look into the toilet bowl after you pee and before you flush, or examine it from your panty or vagina directly.

Of course, there are ovulation kits available in the market to determine the best time to have sex.

Frequency of sex:
Now coming to the question of the frequency of sex, it would be good to have sex once or more every other day during and around your peak ovulation time in order to conceive. It would not hurt if you want to have sex everyday! It definitely would not do you good if you want to have sex just once a week!

However, it is important that if you are trying to conceive, try to adopt a position of intercourse that will deposit the sperm as close to the opening of the cervix as possible. For example, the doggy style position. If you are comfortable with the missionary position, it is also okay. But whatever position you choose, make sure you lie on your back for at least 30 minutes after intercourse, and keep your legs raised a bit so that the sperm has the time and surrounding to travel into your cervix and it does not have to fight gravity to travel to where your egg is. It would be a good idea to place a pillow under your hip during penetration. It would be a bad idea to wash up immediately after sex if you are tyring to conceive.

A general note:
In normal healthy human beings, getting pregnant is quite a task since the male and female systems present a lot of conditions which do not allow immediate fertilization. Doctors estimate a time point of 1 month to 1 year to achieve success from the time you start trying to conceive. This of course also depends on how long you have been on birth control pills before this time point, etc. Under normal conditions, the semen/sperm is alkaline and the normal female vaginal condition is acidic. It is during ovulation that the vagina becomes a bit alkaline allowing the alkaline sperm to survive and fertilize the egg. Also, even if you have had sex a few days before ovulation, a normal healthy sperm is said to have the capacity to survive for up to 5 days in waiting inside your cervix before the egg is released from the ovary. This however is not a 100% established part. So keeping in mind all the plusses and minusses of the amazinh process of conception, it would be best to have intercourse just around or on the day of ovulation.

I would like to add a point: It has been a established fact that your mental frame plays a great part in helping you conceive. Do not have intercourse thinking about having a baby and being stressed out about it. You should enjoy what you are doing and give it your best. Don’t be disheartened if you don’t conceive after trying for a few times. If nature does not do the trick, then we always have great medical technology to turn to in this modern world.
Keep trying and good luck.