Help build your child’s self esteem

What do you do if your child doesn’t feel good about themselves? What if a child does poorly on a test, or has poor grades in school? What if they have been bullied, called names, or teased. What if other kids don’t want to play with your child? All these things can make a child have low self-esteem. Self-esteem can cause a child to give up, quit trying, and become stressed and sometimes even depressed. What can parents do to help fix this? There are no easy fixes, and there definitely are no clear fool-proof answers, but all children can benefit from positive reassurance and a parent who cares and tries.

Meet your child’s needs

To begin with, all children’s basic needs need to be met in order for them to be happy and successful. Talk to your child. Are they getting enough to eat and enough sleep? Is your child clean and healthy? If you answered no to any of these questions, you should try making changes to make sure your child’s basic needs are being met. Think about your mental health. If you are hungry and you do not feel good, you are less motivated, and do not feel good about yourself. It is extremely important for any human being to be healthy and have their basic needs fulfilled.

Talk to your child

If your child’s needs are being met, but they still suffer with self-esteem, there are other things a parent can do to help build a positive self-outlook. Talking to your child about their struggles is really important. You need to know why they are struggling in order to help the situation. Also, just talking could help relieve some pressure and stress. Let your child feel comfortable sharing with you and do not yell or get mad at them. They are being open about their feelings, and you should never discourage this.

If they need discipline because they are doing something wrong, make sure you are clear with them that they are doing something wrong, but that does not make them a bad person. They may need a consequence for their actions, but they can stop those actions and still be a good person. Help them make positive changes in order to avoid negative experiences.

Take action

Another thing you can do to help your child’s self-esteem is make sure that you help solve their struggles. If they are getting poor grades in school, take affirmative action. Don’t let them continue to fail, this only lower’s self-esteem and causes negative self-image. School may not be easy for them and they may need a tutor, or extra help, but this does not make them a failure. Help them get what they need in order to be successful. If someone is making fun or them or bullying them at school, make the school aware of the problem, don’t just sit back and let your child’s self-esteem be destroyed. Just by taking action, you are helping build your child’s self-esteem by letting them know you care.

Teach them confidence

Another thing you can do to help build self-esteem in your child is teach self-confidence. A child needs to know that how they feel about themselves is often times more important than what others think about them. As Bill Copeland says, “Try to be like the turtle—at ease in your own shell.” There are always going to be people that are mean for some reason or another. A person cannot make everyone happy, what is important is making yourself happy first. You need to teach and show your child that they are unique and beautiful for who they are and not for what others think they are.

Lead by example

A good parent always leads by example. Show your child that you have confidence and that you always put your best foot forward; they will see this as a positive example. How can a child build self-esteem if you, as a parent, have poor self-esteem? In order to take charge, be aware, and meet the needs of your child, you must also be in good mental and physical health. A parent is a beacon that shines the way for their family. It is up to you as a parent to determine the mental and physical state of your household. Be a strong light to lead your child and they will shine as bright as you do.

There are always going to be moments where a child feels down about themselves, and moments where they make mistakes. It is your reaction as a parent to these moments that will help shape a child’s self-esteem. Be alert, be patient, and just be there for your child. It is never too late to show your child you care. If they know someone cares and they feel safe and loved, the rest will fall into place. Don’t sit back and let your child’s self-esteem slip away, there are things you can do if you just start by talking to them.