Guide to Parenting Adopted Children

Back in the 1960’s it was harder to “adopt” a white baby. Especially living in a small rural town. It appeared if one was going to adopt, it had to be the perfect white infant.

However, the family you are about to learn about, felt quite the contrary to the above. They wanted to be good parents to any child in need. They set a happy precedent in our small-minded town as the years eventually rolled by.

I came to know this particular family consisting of one happy wife and husband who just wanted to be parents and be the best parents they could be. Their sincere, unselfish desires paid off.

When they were turned down by the adoption agency because there were not enough babies available for adoption, they then came up with a brilliant idea. They applied to agencies in various parts of the United States governing foster homes looking to adopt children.

Fast forward many, many years and what have we got? A very, happy successful raising of six children and extremely proud and happy parents…..who, are now equally proud grandparents!

With persistence they were able to adopt and reach their goal of parenting six children. They adopted a black child, an American Vietnamese orphan, an American Indian baby, two disabled white children and a Hispanic child.

They were the type of family that ate their meals together every night and now that they are all grown, the parents still refer to their family with pride as the mini United Nations!

It indeed softened the heart of our small town as the young couple would show off their latest arrival with all the parental love and pride a parent’s heart can hold.

Each child became a successful, well-adjusted adult. They grew up knowing each other as true brothers and sisters. Of course, challenges occurred as in all families, but with consistent reassurance that each child was totally valued and loved, it made them feel secure in the family and it all worked out wonderfully well.

The parents said some of the things they did to help all of the children to bond and love one another were just common sense ideas.

They made sure each child had to learn about the culture of the others, none being superior to the other. They had chores which made them feel like a real part of a team. Planting a big vegetable garden every year was a must. All had to share in its care.

The mother was a stay at home Mom and Dad had worked hard to support them all materially and emotionally. They were given lots of individual love and attention and learned to accept and love each other.

Each new arrival was met with equal joy and assimilated right into the family with never a regard for race, color or parentage. The children were just that, children who were loved and valued and came to know how much they were wanted.

I read in the newspaper a few years ago, that the “baby” just got married. The large, happy and united family picture was indeed a happy one. So many beautiful faces proving consistent, unselfish love for children pays large rewards!