Grandparents Expect Respect from their Grandchildren

Grandparents, if they are wise, will expect and even demand respect and consideration from their grandchildren even if for no other reason than to show these youngsters what is right and what is wrong. Other than that nothing should be expected, but what is given should be properly appreciated.

Grandparents, unless situations dictate otherwise, are not a part of the family and should be treated with the same courtesy and respect as others who occasionally visit, but with no special protocol. Respect must be earned and this applies to grandparents as well.

When grandparents set in for parents, they are to be treated with the respect and consideration due both parents and grandparents. There are no hard and fast rules of behavior here but it will be well to keep in mind that respect is a two way street. Respect for grandchildren should, and most often do, result in respect for grandparents.

Grand-parenthood in this day and age brings with it no special privileges; those that occur are usually earned. They are important persons in children’s lives and every effort should be made by parents to see that children and grandparents share each others lives as much as possible.

These two have much to offer each other: Children can bring a sense of joy and a sense of purpose to old age and just to interact with grandchildren is a wonderful thing. Often traits of their children will be noticed and observed and commented upon to both parents and child’s delight; and as often children will benefit from the unusual experiences of the older person.

All this is done without prior expectations but with a sense of wonder and amazement. I suppose after all a grandparent does have expectations of being allowed to see grandchildren; when they are not this most likely is a heart breaking experience. Yet there are often reasons for disharmony in families and expectations have little to do with it. The best grandparents can do is to be honest and truthful and to expect the same from the younger ones.

Being a grandparent is a privilege and regardless of expectations this should not be taken lightly. Often, if it were not for grandparents, children would have no parents. These are sad but true happenings. In these situations grandparents should expect the same considerations offered parents.

A child growing up in these times need all the help they can get from parents and grandparents; and grandparents are often most welcome with whatever moral and financial help they can give. For these certainly respect and gratitude should be forthcoming.

As for me personally, I expect only what I get from my grandchildren, love and love and more love. I get it because this is what I give. Along with this there’s respect and delight. What else in life is more important? I can think if nothing more delightful than carrying on intelligent conversations with very young grandchildren. They never cease to amaze and to teach me.