Factors how many Babies should you have

There are many of us who know exactly what we want from day one. It starts out with our favorite baby food. Then, it’s our favorite cartoon. Soon, we are picking colleges and planning the rest of our lives. These are the people who want a degree by a certain age, a marriage by a certain age, and and specific number of children. There is nothing wrong with any of this, however, I have never been one to plan such huge events with a deadline.

When it comes to such a huge responsibility as having children, it is not a decision to be made lightly. There are many factors that need to be taken into consideration. Such factors include: financial security, insurance availability, stability of career, college fund (if you choose to pay for your child’s education), living conditions, child care, transportation stability, and any other concern you may have in raising a child. There are endless entities that will cross your mind when it concerns your child.

The one factor I did not mention is the stress factor. This is not to say that having children is too stressful. I have two and one on the way. Having children does require patience, compassion, discipline (for the child and yourself), and compromise (between parents/children and between parents). These are all required no matter how many you have. Nonetheless, the more children you have, the more of each factor is required. There are many people who have families without all of the factors I mentioned to back them up.

Whether you consider all of the factors I mentioned or not, here are the things I think about:

1. Having more than one child gives them a live-in play partner. This does not mean your home will be fight free, but there is a benefit to learning to share and interact on a regular basis at an early age.

2. Have you heard of only child syndrome? I don’t think this is real, however, it refers to the characteristics of selfishness, know-it-all, having to have his/her own way, territorial, etc. Children with siblings can carry these same characteristics, I have just heard it more about only children.

3. I want my kids to have someone to fight with, call when they have good news, call when they have bad news, share their childhood with, have a babysitter when they get older, someone to embarrass them (other than myself) with stories, etc. I want them to have all of the close family connections that can come with siblings.

4. I love family gatherings. The larger the family, the more fun and surprising they tend to be.

5. I don’t want one child to be faced with the obstacles of taking care of myself and my husband when we cannot take care of ourselves.

6. Only having one child could allow you to provide more for that one child as opposed to spreading between more than one. It is simple, less complicated, and probably less stress from all directions.

7. Having only one, you only have to go through the hard parts once. This includes things like: teething, switching from bottle to cup, teething, taking away the pacifier (if used), teaching them to eat with utensils, terrible two’s, first attitude when exposed to other kids, teenage years (which I am not looking forward to just yet), letting go at college time (another I’m not looking forward to yet), etc.

There are many things in between that can effect your opinion. This includes doctor visits, getting off of work to care for your children, school costs should you choose private school, marriages if you have girls, squeezing in family vacations, and many, many other issues along the way. For me, it is all worth it. Children are a blessing in many ways and they will teach you more than you could predict, whether you have one or more.