Different Ways to Build self Esteem in Teens

The teenage years can be rough; the changing body and raging hormones, having to adapt to new cliques and social situations, all of the changes in preparation for adulthood – it can be overwhelming.  Even if your teen seems to be taking the changes in stride, the slightest unbalance can send their self-esteem into a tailspin.  But with a little patience and an open mind, you can put a smile on the face of even the moodiest teen by raising their self-worth, and help to lay the groundwork for them becoming happy and productive adults.

Though it is always important to recognize a child for a job well done, the key with teens is to find what they are good at, or what they enjoy.  It may be apparent from early on that a young person excels in a particular area, such as art or academics or sports.  These natural abilities should be given an environment in which they can flourish.  By allowing your teen the opportunity to show off their God-given talents, you allow them positive attention and praise, thus raising their self-worth.  However, even though you want to make sure to encourage you teen in this way so they reach their full potential, be careful not to apply too much pressure.  You want them to know that they are good at something – not never good enough.

If your teen does not seem to have found that one specific passion, give them a hand in finding it.  Take notice of the things they are interested in, or that they have said they would like to try.  A teen’s low self-esteem could easily be caused by them not yet finding their niche in the world, but a teen will only allow you to introduce them to something new if it’s “cool”.  If a teen rarely come out from beneath their headphones, guitar lessons might be in order.  Or if they can’t seem to put down the video game controller, take their concentration in a different direction by taking them on a trip to a local computer design school.  Meeting older kids with the same interests can show even the most picked-on teens that there are other kids out there like them, that it does get better, and that they can turn their passion into something creative and productive.

Even if they do not say it out loud, teens will tell you how to help them if you listen hard enough.  Finding something that they enjoy and are good at- essentially something that allows them to be the best version of themselves- is the best way to help increase a teen’s self esteem.