Common reasons behind temper tantrums

Temper tantrums are common in young children around the ages of 1-4 years. At this young age, children have a lot to learn about the world around them. In essence, everything is about them and what they want. However, there are a few factors that can contribute towards a temper tantrum. Tantrums are actually a normal part of a child’s development. All children go through this phase when tantrums can be commonplace. Knowing this can better allow you to handle the tantrums and deal with this phase of development.

Here is a look at some of the main causes of temper tantrums:

Lack of verbal skills

Children around the age of 1 to 4 years have limited verbal skills. This can lead to frustrations when wanting to communicate their wants and needs. Not having the verbal skills to communicate effectively at all times can make a situation become stressful for a child. Not being able to get their thoughts out there can lead to a temper tantrum. This is their way of handling the frustration that they are dealing with. As a child’s verbal skills expand, tantrums should be lessened. This is because a child can verbalize their wants, needs and thoughts.

Lack of understanding

Everyone has a range of emotions and feelings. Children are unable to understand and effectively handle all of their emotions. Anger is a strong emotion that is difficult for a child to express. The only way children know how to vent their anger is through a meltdown. Being angry is perfectly normal and acceptable, as even adults get angry. It is what is done with this feeling that matters. Children need to learn to understand that they are angry so that they can learn how to express their feelings in an appropriate manner.


Young children often want everything and fail to understand that not everything can be at their disposal. There are many things that become forbidden, which can lead to anger. A child is unable to understand why they can’t have what they want right now. This can lead to a temper tantrum. In this instance you must refrain from giving into your child, otherwise the tantrums will become more frequent. A child must not learn that a tantrum is the way to get something. Teach your child the right way. If an item isn’t obtainable, explain why in simple terms.

Set routines to avoid tantrums

Throughout the day your child is to follow certain events which may not be met with cooperation. Events such as bedtime, getting dressed, putting away toys or doing anything that your child doesn’t want to do at that moment can cause a temper tantrum. If your child is already fixated on something else, or just doesn’t want to comply, it could cause outrage. To limit these temper tantrums try to get your child into a familiar routine to allow for better cooperation. Prepare your child a couple of minutes before each new activity to give time to adjust.

Tiredness can promote tantrums

If a child is tired, temper tantrums can easily be triggered. Anything which causes displeasure can promote a tantrum where otherwise your child may be better equipped to get through these times. Tiredness makes all the difference to your child’s behavior. Tiredness causes crankiness and difficulties in getting through the day. To prevent tiredness from affecting your child’s temperament have a good bedtime routine set in place. A time to finish the day and prepare for sleep is important for young children. A predictable routine with calming rituals can help your child to sleep better.

Children around the age of 1 to 4 years are prone to temper tantrums, which will eventually become outgrown. It is important to understand the reasons for tantrums to prevent fueling and encouraging them. Also you will be better equipped to handle the tantrums when they occur. Teaching your child the emotion she is feeling and the reason for why can help to reduce and lessen the tantrums. Be reasonable, be understanding and help your child understand her feelings which are normal; however, don’t give into tantrums.