Children Chores Lessons Learn Parenting Benefits Teach Responsibility

How to manage yourself and your surroundings is the overall lesson and purpose of assigning chores to children. Through daily chores, children learn many technical and organizational skills that carry over into other aspects of their blossoming lives.

The use of chores is by no means a way of relegating adult responsibility to a child. Rather, it is a mild delegation of the duties necessary to run a tidy and efficient home. When a parent chooses child-friendly chores, and they couple that with an explanation of its purpose and its practical demonstration by the parent, the children will know that they are of the age to be a responsible member of the family.

Prior to the assignment of chores, children must observe the parents actively managing these responsibilities themselves. There will be a great lesson lost if the parent burdens the child with a task that they do not do, or that is too difficult for them to handle. By demonstrating how the chore is to be done, and helping your child complete the chores the first few times, the child will feel less burdened by the new task, and may actually like doing the job, just because mom and dad did it with them. This is a way of teaching cooperation and work to your children.

Chores will also help children learn how to organize their time. They will learn to manage their play time and homework time around the responsibilities of the home. Some chores may take longer than others, so they will learn that if they start earlier or work faster, then they will have time for the fun they now have to somewhat cut short.

Chores are a precursor to the full-fledged responsibility of having your own home. Under the parental buffer to the real world, children learn how to do tasks – washing dishes, taking out the garbage, making their beds – much like an apprentice learns as he practically observes the work of his teacher. Children will learn how to take care of themselves, and this learning through chores will make certain essential and necessary tasks second nature to the child. So, chores develop a second-nature of cleaning and being responsible in the child.

This is what parents want for their children – independence through raising and training. Many parents strive very hard to equip their children with the ability to manage their affairs, on every practical level. These parents do not want their children to be incapable of handling responsibility – not knowing how to wash their clothes or fix something simple when it breaks – once it is time to make a life of their own.

So, in essence, the basic chore may help to accomplish certain household tasks, but it is really about experiencing the repetitious responsibility to something that you really do not want to have to do. Giving this training to children, through chores, will help them get used to doing things just because they need to get done, and it will be forever marked in their long-term memory.

We do not want our children to become careless in any way. We want that they will know there is a time for play, and there is a time to be responsible. We want them to learn to not put down what they are entrusted with, just because something fun comes along. Children can learn this very well from having daily chores.

As long as we are kind as we assign chores to them, they will learn to complete their tasks without second thought. This will be the lesson of feeling good and thinking good thoughts, even when doing something difficult or boring, that our children will learn from chores.

Giving the children a break from their chores – step in and wash the dishes when they’re supposed to, or take out the garbage here and there – this will teach our children mercy and how to be merciful to those you are in charge over. This is a great attribute for the future entrepreneur. We do not need any more aggressive oppressors who exercise their authority to enact corporal punishment, just because their in charge, so show the children a lot of mercy, generously.

Obedience is another lesson that is learned from having chores. The simple fact that your child is told to do a certain task is enough of a lesson on how to obey your parents. Through kindness the chore is given to the child, and through respect and good feelings is how the child should accept this responsibility. The parents can help the child understand how to fulfill the request by fostering good feelings about the chores in their children. Consider rewarding the children, not for the chores, but rather for being children. It may not be necessary to connect gift-giving to your children, with what jobs they have done. There is no need to interject competition in chores, unless this is a great motivator for your family.

Rather, consider giving your children something special just for trying, instead of who did the job the best. One of the best ways a parent can support a child is to not put competition in their personal lives. Let that stay outside. Let love and cooperation exist within the four walls of your loving home. The world outside is enough of a competition to be in and to survive, so try to avoid putting that into something they have to do, whether they win “best chore performance” or not.

Children will learn how to give and to share, with everyone, from doing chores – we certainly need more giving and sharing people in the world. In essence, they are helping the whole family, so performing chores can conjure up mutually helping in areas they are not directly responsible for.

Learning to multitask is another beneficial lesson learned from assigning chores to our children. Oftentimes, they will find that they need to balance more than one thing at a time in order to get the job done. They may need to study for a test, or they may have special plans – balancing their chores with these changes will give the children a taste of the fact that they will not always have the luxury of doing only one thing at a time. In life, they will have to organize to manage several pertinent tasks, all at once. Learning this lesson at home with mom and dad is the better way to learn this balance.

With its most essential balance of love and nurturance, assigning chores to our children have a wealth of practical benefit. These children will gain a head-start on managing their affairs and being responsible, just because the parents imparted invaluable practical training and accountability, to the way they raised their children.