Changing the behavior of an arrogant child

An arrogant child is not pleasurable to be around. His inflated ego and superior attitude causes him to be disliked, and often avoided by other children. No parent wants to see their child suffer this type of experience.

Children are not born arrogant. This is a negative attitude that develops over time.

Most children who display arrogance are bright, talented and self-confident. It is when confidence is not tempered with humility that arrogance sets in and negates all of the good qualities the child possesses.

If you witness your child behaving with arrogance, there are steps to take which could mitigate or alleviate the issue and allow your child to enjoy more congenial interaction with his peers.

How parents can curb arrogance in children:

Identify the root of problem

Look at your child’s development in retrospect. Was he super-smart as a toddler and encouraged to show off his precocity in front of adults to satisfy your feelings of pride?

Was he given the message through doting parenting that he was the center of the universe, and thus acquired a skewed sense of his importance and a sense of entitlement?

Parents who overindulge a child with too much praise and attention do sometimes create an arrogant child. This especially has the potential to occur when the child is proficient in one specific area, such as sports or academics. The parents are in awe of their over-achiever and promote his “cuteness.” What was “cute” at three or four, becomes boorish by the time the child is in grade school.

Talk to the child’s teachers

Chances are, if your child is behaving in an arrogant manner at home, he could potentially be displaying the same negative behavior in school. Talk to the child’s teachers and coaches in order to adequately grasp the scope of the problem.

Make them aware that you are dealing with the issue and prevail upon them to be patient with your child and to apprise you when they see signs of improvement.

Talk to the child in private

While pervasive arrogance is a trait you want to correct, and cannot ignore, neither do you want to humiliate your child by reprimanding him in front of others. Each time you witness your child acting superior, ridiculing others, contradicting adults or displaying any other form of rudeness, take him aside and talk with him about the ramifications of his behavior. Give the firm message that arrogance is unacceptable.

Arrogant children want to fit in and be liked. They lack the people skills to interact appropriately in order to bring about positive relationships. As the parent, it is your responsibility to teach the child and give him the tools to behave differently.

Be a positive role model

Examine your own interpersonal relationship skills. Do you always have to be right, and put down the opinions of others. In a debate, must you always win? If you discover through honest introspection that you are modeling arrogant behavior to your child, then it is time for an attitude adjustment on your part, as well.

Children learn what they live. If your child sees you behaving with courtesy, kindness and humility toward others, he is going to emulate your positive behavior.

Be understanding

Many arrogant children actually feel inferior and cover their feelings of inadequacy by bragging about the excellent skills they possess in one specific area, and lord their success over others. They often are jealous of siblings or schoolmates who seem to have more friends and easier interactions.

Continue to praise your child for his positive behaviors, in order to balance the lessons regarding arrogance, to keep the child’s self-worth intact.

Sympathize with your arrogant child’s plight and determine to help him overcome the negative behavior with gentle, firm and loving guidance. As a caring parent, teach your child what arrogant behavior is, why it is disturbing to others, and how to curb it.

Help your child to be unselfish

Guide your child into volunteering in a community service project. Joining him in this endeavor is even more effective. Teaching your child to think about others is an excellent way to direct his attention outward and offset arrogant tendencies. Helping others is a positive method of instilling compassion and keeping the child’s self-esteem intact, while teaching him to be less self-centered.

If arrogance in children is not curtailed, the attitude exacerbates over time. Help your child to eliminate any trace of arrogance in order for him to become a well-adjusted adult enjoying a future filled with positive relationships.