Baby Colic what Parents can do to Handle the Stress of Colic

Handling the stress of a colic suffering baby can be the toughest aspect of a new parents life. Listening to a baby cry is never easy, especially when they become inconsolable, but after three or four hours it is a true test of parenting.

Despite being relatively common, little is really known about colic. There is no known cause of definite cure, yet a study in Australia reported that 60% of parents have experienced an infant with colic.

So what can parents do to handle the stress of a baby with colic? How could it ever be possible to deal with listening to your bundle of joy cry for hours?

No one said that it was easy, but it must be possible, as thousands of parents deal with colic daily. The following tips bellow are some of the secrets.

MENTAL PREPARATION
As colic episodes generally begin around the same each day, it is easy to start psyching your self up as time draws closer. Be ready for the onslaught but try not to dread it as this will lead to anxiety. Repeat to yourself things like, ‘I can get through this’ and ‘Eventually it will end and everything will be OK’. Whatever will give you strength while keeping you relaxed.

PHYSICAL PREPARATION
You may have discovered certain things that help slightly soothe baby, a quick walk, a swing, bouncer etc, have these set up and ready to use before you need them. Also turn the phone/doorbell or any other possible distraction off, if baby does settle then chances are in the relief you will forget to get this done. If music helps have that ready too and any other personal tricks you may have discovered.

GET OUT AND ABOUT
While it may be tempting to shut you and your crying baby away from the world, it is not the answer. It is very important that you try and maintain some form of regular activity. The distraction of different surrounding may be just what your baby needs. Fresh air is always refreshing. Obviously if your baby is screaming you don’t want to inflict that upon others, so try getting back to nature, with a trip to a beach or nature park. Any big wide open space will do really.

MEET OTHERS
Knowing that you are not alone can also ease the pressure on parents. It can provide you with tips on how others coped as well reinforce the ability to get through no matter how hard it is at times.

TAKE TIME OUT
Remember that you are a person with needs as well, and while your world may revolve around baby if you don’t take care of yourself you won’t be able to properly care for the baby.
Leave baby with Grannie, or dad, or any trusted person and head out for a coffee or a massage, or whatever little you treat you fancy.

TALK
Talk to your baby while they are crying, talk to your husband, mother, neighbor and anyone who will listen. This is the only way to remain sane. Get your emotions out in the open and they become much easier to handle.

LISTEN
Listen to all that everyone has to say, with a grain of salt. Some of it will work for you and some won’t. You need to work out which is which and when they should be tried. Don’t shut people out, it is amazing the little tips you can pick up from more experienced mothers.

ASK
Ask questions and ask for help. A baby with colic is no reflection on mothering ability. No one will think less of you for asking for help. In todays world, the ability to ask for help is highly regarded.

INFANT MASSAGE
Colic has been linked to the possibility of an immature nervous and digestive systems. Infant Massage can help develop both. Added to this is the fact that a Certified Infant Massage Instructor is able to teach you specific techniques to deal with colic.
A sequence can be performed during an episode and can ease some of the pain. Many parents have claimed that the counting and concentration involved while massaging aids them in relaxing.

When all else fails and the stress gets unbearable, find a safe secure place to leave baby for a few minutes. Choose somewhere you will be comfortable leaving the baby out of sight. In order to really regain control it is useful to go to a room where the crying is not so prominent.

While it may seem like an impossible task, try to remain positive. Babies are able to sense emotions. It might not seem like it is making much difference but it certainly won’t hurt. Remember, colic does not last a lifetime and there are no ongoing side effects. It is only a phase of life and will pass. Many parents of colic babies develop the attitude that ‘If I can get through this I can get through anything’. Never have truer words been spoken

For more information on colic see the links cited for this article
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/colic/DS00058/DSECTION=10
http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/colic:_what_is_it.html
http://www.infantmassage-imis.com.au/