Arguments in Favor of Spanking

Spanking: Abuse or Discipline?

We have all been there. Your child is acting up in the super-market, or in an amusement park line. They are going on ten minutes now of making a scene. Its obvious talking is out of the question, they stopped listening moments ago. So, what is a parent to do? If your child goes on unpunished for too long, he or she will know that they can can behave this way all the time, without fear of repercussion. But, if a parent “hits” first and asks questions later, are they teaching the child anything about why that behavior is unacceptable? Or, are they promoting a violent action in place of an equally unpleasant one?

These are questions we have all asked ourselves. Some have sided with the non-spanking, all talk approach. While others, determined that they would never do anything to actively “hurt” their child, stand by spanking as a classic and effective form of punishment. Where do you stand?

Before you jump to your answer, give it some consideration. Every child is a different individual. They eat different things, their mood swings vary. Everything is objective. So, what makes a parent think that one way of discipline will work for every child. Before you pick a side of the fence to plant your parenting flag upon, think about your child. Think about their temperament, their responsiveness to stimuli. Think about yourself and/or your spouse. Would you yourself respond well to spanking?

Spanking is not wrong when it is done with the right intent and attitude. But, spanking is not for everyone. Evaluate your child. Try to see past the black and white debate of spanking, good or bad, and look for the effectiveness of different punishments on your child. You might try testing different forms. See whether spanking yields immediate and permanent results, or if they react more consistently to time-outs and taking away privileges. The key is to make your punishments as individual as your child. Just like in your average legal system, there is an appropriate punishment for every crime, and there is an appropriate disciplinary action for every child and every disobedience.

Regardless of how you choose to punish your children, remember that love speaks volumes to a child. After all is said and done, talk to your child. Make certain that he or she can differentiate between your calculated punishment, and their occasional acting out. Otherwise, your child may learn that hitting is a way to get what he or she wants effectively. Make sure they know how much you love them, and why you don’t want them doing what they did. Make sure they know that as long as they continue on with that behavior, they will receive the same punishment, possibly at harsher levels each time. Make your punishments thought out, intentional, and not sporadic. This will help set a line between parental love, and violent aggression or irritation.

Happy Parenting. Remember that communication is the key! How you choose to communicate is up to you.