Anger Management Techniques for Young Children

Many young children have difficulty managing their anger. It is important for them to learn techniques, which can help them in social situations. The following ideas may be of use.

Count to ten

This old-fashioned technique is as powerful as it ever was. Counting to ten is something that most kids can easily learn to do. It is amazing how much better one can feel after ten seconds of relaxation.

Breathing slowly

Many kids will feel their anger start to dissipate if they simply breathe slowly for a few minutes. Again, this is an easy lesson to teach, even for very young children. They can do this alone or in conjunction with the counting described above.

Go do a calm activity

You can instruct your children to find a calm activity to do when they are feeling anger. This may distract them enough. You can specifically tell them to do something that they enjoy and which is relaxing. It may be reading a book. It may be just resting.


Many kids get angry because they have difficulty vocalizing their feelings. It might not have been very long ago that they were babies and crying angrily was their only way of conveying their frustration. You should teach your children to speak up when something angers them. Sometimes just saying it can help to take the edge off of the anger.

The children can also learn to use their words productively. Instead of just saying that they are angry they can try to come up with ways to alleviate their anger. They can talk about solutions that may work. If their anger is with someone, you can encourage them to talk it out with the person, which will often bring about a positive resolution.

Ask them to draw how they feel

Drawing their anger and feelings of frustration may be another way to get out their feelings. You can have them keep a paper and crayons nearby so that they can make an image representing their emotions. This activity may help them remain calm while the intensity of the situation passes.  

Be there for them

You should let yourself be an anger management tool for your young children. Make yourself available so that if they need to talk it out you can listen and help them calm down.

There are many effective anger management techniques for young children. No one technique will work for every child thus you may want to try the above ideas for your youngster.