A Childs Embarrassing Questions

Kids say the darndest things…ALL the time. Have you ever been caught in a situation where you were literally left speechless? Here are some suggestions for how to deal with a child’s embarrassing questions.

First of all, don’t get frazzled. Anyone who has ever been around a child knows that their comments come at the most ill-fated times. People who haven’t been around children will take their cue from your reaction.

If your child curses, politely tell them to choose a different word. Depending on their age, you may offer a bit more of an explanation, but normally it’s more productive to focus on what they should do or say versus the negative. Pay attention to your child’s attitude when they curse. Are they aware of what they are saying is bad? Are they testing your reaction?

If a child is unaware they are using a “bad” word gently tell them. If they are intentionally trying to push your buttons of gage your reaction a stern look and correction should put them in line.

Kids sometimes say the darndest things in regards to race, mental retardation, obesity or any other generality regarding the way someone looks. Although it may make adults uncomfortable or embarrass you, a child isn’t saying anything to be cruel. Children speak their mind. If they notice someone that looks different than what they normally see they will say it out loud.

Do not chastise your child. You will only make them feel ashamed or embarrassed. When your child points out differences in appearance acknowledge the differences. It’s when people try to ignore differences that prejudice builds in children because children are put in an awkward position where they don’t feel free to express themselves or ask questions.

If your child intentionally says something prejudice to someone out of spite, reprimand them gently and ask how your child would feel if the situation were reversed. Your child may be acting the way they’ve seen others behave. Once your child can empathize with how they may feel in that same situation they will normally feel remorse for their actions.

If your child makes a comment about the “fat lady” in line at the store or the “smelly man” gently change the subject. Once you have left, talk to your child about other people’s feelings. Do not reprimand them for asking a questions. Simply suggest that from now on they ask you in private.

Kids say the darndest things. The best way to cope is to keep your cool and respond in an adult manner. If your child is deeply offensive apologize to whomever they offended and say you will discuss the manner with your child.